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By  *arah-jane      8 weeks ago

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We're considering blocking whispers in chat

By  *outhend_naughties       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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I think they should go! Its rude to whisper! Lol xx

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Stay!!!!

By *racy691    (F)  8 weeks ago

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they should go chatrooms are 4 community chat not private chat we have here 4 that

By  *imandcat       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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we totally agree they should go we have been the target of several total idiots whispering crude things they have no right saying

By  *entalmandie       (F)  8 weeks ago

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i think they shud go

By  *arah-jane      8 weeks ago

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Please keep the feedback coming

By  *xluxuriaxx       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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hold your penis ... i mean peace go go go

By  *ndybasildon        (M) 8 weeks ago

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I vote whispers to be only bought in shops....

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I agree that being abused by whisper is not on. I suppose because i would never abuse anyone by whisper or never actually get anyone whispering to me then i dont really realise the upset they might be causing. Just one quick question! Can somebody whisper to you if you have blocked them???? if not then that is always an option. Otherwise maybe it is best if they go although it seems like another "victory" for the minority of dickheads on here intent on fucking it up for the rest which is a shame!!

By *alford guy    (M) 8 weeks ago

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a whisper can be a discrete way of givibg your contact no email ect abuse should not be tolerated simple

By *taffybull      (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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,,,

By  *olly knickers        (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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Whispers should go, cause more problems than not having them. Pm's are there for a reason.

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By  *forfun_uk       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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we think they should go

By  *ewport1       (M) 8 weeks ago

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Never been able to make them work, but I don't hold with anyone being abused or harrassed so please take them away.

By *moothienw     (F)  8 weeks ago

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divided here - i use the whispers ocasionally - just as a quick way of getting a message - one guy did keep on whispering and even though i asked him to stop he didnt so i simply blocked him - but it is a way of abuse and if that is happening i say get rid - i can live without them - just have to pm and let the person know in chat ive mailed them -

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By  *adger8       (M) 8 weeks ago

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ok call me a thick twat whats a bloody whisper lol

By  *arah-jane      8 weeks ago

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Ok the techies have disabled whispers

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By  *forfun_uk       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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as mrs 2 said without actually telling me(lol) bin them.

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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My vote was to get rid too.

By  *arah-jane      8 weeks ago

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lol it is for me

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By  *forfun_uk       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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"thingy"???

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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A thingy, you know one of them thingys this women uses all the time too to describe something :-)

By *moothienw     (F)  8 weeks ago

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thingy might be the server - who knows ;)

By *an_n_dim     (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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I'm never in favour of banning things, it's a pity to lose whispers because others abused them, why did people just not block anyone giving them abuse?

By  *aryy palmer       (M) 8 weeks ago

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Shame for me I didn't pick up his thread before the decision was made.

By  *arah-jane      8 weeks ago

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I'm happy to review this decision in a week and see whether people are happier or sadder about the chat room

By  *imandcat       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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from the folk we've spoke to they're glad the whispers are gone...... it is funny when folk dont know tho and we all see there whisper!!! sorry lol

By *urvy katie     (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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I think whisper's are very much open to interpritation. Some people use it as a quick means of communicating (sometimes good) an as an iritation (more often than not). It's a shame that people cant be bothered to excercise their fingers and file the oppropriate reports to sj, yet again the minority have spoilt a part of the site for others. WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GET A GRIP AND GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!! Kev

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I am in favour of whispers - very much quicker and easier than PMs. And VERY funny when they go wrong and everyone sees the whisper! If a whisperer is a nuisance tell him/her and then block him/her if it persists. It can be good to have a private conversation while watching the public ones. Bring back whispers!

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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I could never get them to work anyway and they just confused me when people whispered me....

By *urvy katie     (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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Perhaps you would have missed them more if you actually came in chat a little bit more often cmbd??? I've been online for approx a year now and can say with conviction that i've been in chat nearly every day of that year and i can say in all that time i've only seen you in chat twice. Anyone who say's they cant get whispers right obviously cant read as it explains quite clearly how to do it when you enter the chat room. I revert back to my previuos post, people excercise your fingers and carry out the appropriate sections on peoples profiles then report to sj. Katie n Kev

By  *ittle-lady      (F)  8 weeks ago

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i agree katie,,,a use the chat rooma bit more now and a think the wispers are ok,,,a sumtimes lose track of whos talik tl me ,,and the wispers help,,if people are gettin crap then they shud do as requested anfd report them ..

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By  *awtys       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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i agree whispers can be good or bad, ive used them occassionally to ask a personal question to friends,yes weve had abuse but as people have said u can block them n report them.i have seen in the room when people are whispering abuse how it upsets people. i think that it shud be reinstated but the mods shud be able to see the whispers so that they can see if someone is being abusive.

By  *aspberry-ink       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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Bring em back. we have used them, usually to grab a certain persons attention or to say something within a conversation that is private but isnt worth the hassle of pm which would lose the flow of converation.

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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Not that is has anything to do with the topic in question but i do occassionally pop into cam chat... and have spent time there too but i really dont feel comfortable there with my own cam on as anyone with premium membrship can access it, regardless of whether they have completed a profile or been verified.

By *moothienw     (F)  8 weeks ago

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mmmm kent man - i like your whispers xx

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To have or not to have that is the question!!!

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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~~obviously can't read properly and have been severly reprimanded.

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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Thank you Chesh... Like you i had similar problems, i know HOW to send them, they just dont alwasy work for me and and when they dont i get in a muddle sending things to the wrong place or to the room etc....

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The whispers are open to abuse, however they do have positive sides and offer the option for more intermate private conversations without going to msn.

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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To be honest I didn't realise how many people do actually use them, as they were not working in chat last night when people were putting them in, the chat was going nineteen to the dozen and I couldn't keep up at all... so maybe they are worth having just to slow the room down lol

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Chesh surely we are in global in a situation where we desire to have the freedom to act and speak as we wish (so long as it doesn't offend others). Yet we wish to impose censorship here. This seems a ironic in relation to the interests we all share.

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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And why SJ asked what everyone thought _gtrainer.......so everyone can say what they think and she can decided what to do.

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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I must say i was suprised they had been removed so quickly and after only a handful (considering the membership numbers) had stated their prerence but as SJ has said it can be a reviewed in a week and reinstated if thats what is wanted.

By  * charlie x       (F)  8 weeks ago

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I think we should keep whispers but maybe limit who can use them.....say maybe on verified members or have the option to block them so people can whisper to u....we can block so many other things so why not try that?

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Chesh thats a fair point, but its still the imposition of censorship that could result.

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mental note, check the text thoroughly

By *hroomy     (M) 8 weeks ago

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they should stay simple as

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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The problem with blockingthe person sending them is you block them form all communal conversation too which may be a little excessive.

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i agree with bubbles..............cud we have a whisper on/off button

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It seem to me that the balance of the views is moving towards being in favour of them. Many like them, many are against. But if they are stopped it effects all. Surely it's easy enough to block anyone who 'whispers' you against your wishes - just as you can block anyone who offends in the room. I think it's nice to express personal appreciation of someone (eg Smoothie or Helen) without it going public!

By *moothienw     (F)  8 weeks ago

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im sure the techys could install an option to have or not have whispers - the problem with having them and just reporting after the event is no good really - cos the damage is done - only so much people can put up with -

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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The sad part about this is.....there wouldn't be a discussion about this if they didn't abuse / direct in whispers.

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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This could be an area where Peer Led Moderation could be an effective tool... if a percentage of the room is blocking an individual they would not be allowed access to the room at that time until any issues resolved or reasons have been established.

By *hroomy     (M) 8 weeks ago

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bubbles that was the idea of taking the whispers away because ppl were being abusive ergo you dont want any communication with them

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By  *all-me-bubbles-darling       (F)  8 weeks ago

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Hell who knows _hroomy?...

By  *heshirecpl       (M)(F)  8 weeks ago

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It isn't just direting in whispers so it seems bubbles.it seems insulting and abusing people in whispers is going on too. Me, I have a thick skin, but not everyone has, and if someone insults how you look or just abuses in general, then it may well upset someone, so yes, the damage is done before you get to block them.