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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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well what an eye opener tonight has been .

you will always hear me harping on about NOT posting locations on these forums and me critisising anyone that does

Well tonight I had first hand experience of what DOES happen when people post on the forums here

someone let slip that they were going to my usual dogging spot tonight and what time they were going ..

I tuurned up about 2 hrs before they said they would be there everything seemed normal the usual number of cars spread over the area

within an hour the place was packed with every tom dick and harry must have been 30 odd cars as opposed to the usual 7-8

there were that many had the people turned up when they said they were going to they wouldnt have beeen able to park up anyway

there was literally standing room only with cars milling round in circles unable to park up

then the fun and games start 3 car loads of kids ..come hareing roung the laybys usual shouting and jeering etc... but they take it a step further and start chucking eggs at cars and speed off...all great fun to them I assume

get speaking to some of the 'non regulars' and guess what they all saw it ON THIS SITE

the post was only up for 6 hrs on a week day

what a lot of people don't know is the local farmer and his family live right behind the hedge and monitors what goes on and reports back to the police and the other farmer down the lane regularly patrols the laybys

that amount of increased activity and the increased noise from the idiot kids and increased traffic will surely bring more attention from the boys in blue

(in the end it actually turned into a very good night (have only just got in)) but I would rather it not have had the hassle in the first place

so guys if you want your sites turning into this then carry on posting

carry on blabbing where you gonna be and invite the world

the time is fast comng when I will give up my hobby of 10 yrs and take up knitting

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By *ncleDirty  (M)(F  over a year ago

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You are so right, but still they will not listen.

We used a site some way off our home patch, just to escape the inevitable socialising you get drawn into when you become familiar faces in your local car parks.

It was by any standards a quiet little spot, but one that was routinely dogged by five or six regulars. The guys themselves were inoffensive enough and obviously the type that saw the infrequent results they got as a welcome respite from the long hours of waiting. In effect, they were doggers, as opposed to the sex tourists that are so endemic in these places nowadays.

Browsing through a dogging related forum one night, a young couple had posted their intentions of visiting said car park, and in their naivety, felt it necessary to give not only the location but the actual night and approximate time too. Even mentioning a specific car park was against the site rules, but the post lingered on the forum for several hours before the moderators took action. All they did then was to take out the name of the site by putting a string of red crosses in its place together with a warning.

The young couple were hoping to perform their first show and wanted to ensure they had two or three really polite guys there. If things went really well, then she may even offer more. It was this hint of “more” that worried me, so unusually, I mailed the couple to suggest they cancel their trip and make the fact known on the forum, just in case.

Ironically, if they’d just gone without mentioning the fact to anyone, I have little doubt that they’d have not only had a good night, but they would probably have returned time and time again. But!

About a day before the couple’s proposed visit, another post appeared on the original thread. It simply read “Sorry, but we have called this off for now”. However, it was a bluff. The couple had every intention of going out on the specified night and hoped their “cancellation” would be enough to deter what I suggested might be a testosterone tsunami.

The very next day I received a mail from them, recounting their frightening experience. So many cars were pulling into the car park, some were having to queue down the road, and others were parking some way off and walking in. The couple’s car was now effectively hemmed in, and guys were knocking on their windows to ask “Are you the couple looking for fun tonight?”. [How quickly did a “show” with “maybe more” get translated as guaranteed action!?] When she broke down in tears, the guys eventually cleared enough room to let them out, but the damage was already done.

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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I fear you are right UD they just will NOT learn

the sooner SJ et all start banning people who break this rule the better IMHO ok maybe once is a mistake put persistent posters of locations should be given their marching orders to protect our passtime

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*iss Twinkle By *iss Twinkle   profile verified by photo (F  over a year ago

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There was a thread yesterday asking why this site doesnt give the information people want (ie locations and times etc http://www.dogging.co.uk/forum/the-lounge/65598)

I think thiese examples explain exactly why this site chooses to do things how it does.

I think some members need to really think about why they use the site; So called 'genuine doggers' would surely not want arranged meets surely in which case why are they here trying to arrange them?

The site is an excellent networking facility, thats all.

Its not intended to be a pick up joint (thats what your local dogging spots are for!)

Use the site to chat, exchange stories, have a laugh and PRIVATELY discuss locations and details with others local to you who share your intersest in outdoor sexual activity.

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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well said bubbles

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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ill second that well said xx

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*heshcple By  *heshcple    profile verified by photo premium paying member (M)(F  over a year ago

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All good advice, but the one thing that puzzles me is........why do people think they need to advertise where and when they are going to be at a dogging site?

Is it an insecurity thing ? they need people watching and wouldn't like it if no one turned up?

For us, we just go, if someone is there to watch, all well and good, if not there isn't anything stopping us having fun anyway.

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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I dont think any couple needs to advertise they are going to a site

word will soon spread as soon as they turn up lol

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*heshcple By  *heshcple    profile verified by photo premium paying member (M)(F  over a year ago

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Yeah exactly.....the car park almost looks like a speeded up camera at a public car park.........cars moving all over everywhere trying to get closer to the couples car, it is really funny and we sit and watch for about 15 minutes till they all calm down haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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i never post when and where im going i can always find somthing to play with but a lot of posters dont think about the wallys that will turn up if they post on here some men when they think a bit of fanny gonner be sat there just waiting for them ive seen guys fighting each other just cos they think they better than the rest its real life out there not anything like a porn film

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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To be fair this site isn't bad for naming places, not like a few of the sites on the net. We used to preach the gospel and try and educate folk on another site forum. Result, sarcasm and sneers by a few.

One couple put on the time, the place and what they'd be driving. Surprise surprise, the night got ruined for them. As you can't educate pork they even put a post on the next days forum slating the people for ruining it for 'em, the mind boggles.

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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I guess maybe they thought people would read their profile and only turn up if they met their specific criteria lol

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By *adger_69   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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sounds like a normal night at an infamous place near brighton

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By *adger_69   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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we go to XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

but we have to organise else no one would think of turning up. lol, normal via a text message

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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bubbles just to correct you a little bit, the thread you pointed out which i started isnt asking the site to put up locations etc in forums for public viewing....point is this IS a dogging site..the name says it. yet nobody seems to know much about locations or anything (during private messages)

The thread was intended as a general question of who actually goes dogging because i feel most people..and i state that again "most" people on here use it as a social tool and swingers site. i dont think to many people actually go out dogging

people say dogging is dying etc etc..yea because every one sits on sites like this insted of actually going to do it every night of the week

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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As we have only been members for a short period, we would like to say that we found this site great for us. We know of dogging and thought we would give it a try. After getting some extra info from some great members here such as places and when and what to do , it has been a great help.

we would never have gotton any further than thinking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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great glad you have had joy...might move to norfolk lol

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By *adger_69   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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think the problem south, is possibly a lot more couples would go actually DOGGING, and suspect that most know where the sites are, problem is so do the single blokes, and whilst some ladies may want to be pawed/watched by a dozen plus men, I think that the majority only want 1/2 men, or other couples. And if you take the scenario from my last trip out, was watching a couple me and 1 other guy, and the lady was getting more adventerous, when 4 other single guys turned up, no is it ok etc, i was barged out the way some bloke hand went down her knickers and that was that they stopped and drove away. and who would blame them.

yes i know of numerous places and i intend to keep the quiet locations to myself, and somewhere we can go with out the hassle of the more popular areas

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Have to agree with everything said above but as a single (straight) male I can't help wondering if I post the exact details of when and where I'm going one night, does that mean I'll be overrun with couples and single fems? Is that how it works?

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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not at all staffs and you know it lol

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*iss Twinkle By *iss Twinkle   profile verified by photo (F  over a year ago

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Apologies Souths.... i misunderstood your intention with the thread in that case as it did say ".....i only ask because to me this doesnt come across as a dogging site, but more of a swingers site or use of webcams. There isnt much info on here for genuine doggers.. very hard to get told of happening locations and all round dogging do's and dont's. chat very seems to be dogging related (mostly)....." and "... well you would think dogging.co.uk would be the place for you to find out all you need and put your mind at ease. its the sort of thing im talking about.

we to are new to this world and this site doesnt really help people find out the best places to go or ways best ways in which to approch it. i almost knocked a bloke out the last time we went but have since found out he was only doing what alot of doggers do...."

Im not entirely sure what you would expect to find other than the opportunity to chat with likeminded members?

The carparks would be full if we all went out every night... Circumstances dictate that we cannot all go out as and when we feel the urge, im sur eim not alone in having youngsters at home and im fairly certain social services would be alarmed if i was out cruising car parks at all hours whilst my children slept in their beds.

I like many choose to arrange my meets carefully around my free time and have been very successfull in doing this thanks to this sites excellent forums and messaging etc.

I dont even 'dog' as such, preferring to meet and then find somewhere outdoors and semi private where we may be spotted and watched, a practise which i believe originally gave 'dogging' its name... where amorous couples were caught and observed from a distance by dog walkers?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Just a trivial bit of information ...

... The "dogging" term originates from the practice of men using imaginary dogs as an excuse for hanging around in the bushes ...

You were right, Bubbles ... but the word imaginary is operative here and I find that quite amusing ... "imaginary dogs"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Was indeed very firmly tongue in cheek T5tart :P

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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bubbles im talking from our experience of this site in the 6 months we have used it for.

in terms of me saying its hard to find locations..thats from other members in our area through private messages..not in a public forum.

we joined this site because dogging interested us, fact is this site couldnt be further away from dogging if it tried. You speak to people and they wanna arrange a meet..their place or hotel?? lol isnt dogging for people who love the great outdoors, car parks, sex in and on cars etc etc. this is much more of a swingers type site..thats fact.

what id expect to find from a dogging site is..alot of chat about dogging in general, people wanting to meet at dogging locations..not at hotels or houses. advice on dogging for newbies (it is a very daunting experience when you first go oout as im sure your aware) advice on what to look out for at a dogging location (from other members experiences maybe)

section on dogging rules to find out about the etiquette of dogging and the best ways to enjoy it safely and legally? and yes to talk to likeminded people..problem is most ive come across at not really doggers but swingers

it was a thread asking the question do people on here actually go?

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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the trouble is there are no rules any more really

its different for every couple /female / male going

some flash some dont

some open windows some dont

thing is not its being over run by lots of single males a lot of couples dont indicate

to stop the people who sit in cars all night moaning nothing is happening from jumping out and rushing them

it used to be a discrete 2-3 round a car now its more like 10-20 which is not discrete and can be intimidationg for the couple in the car

if only the hoards of new doggers would be more old school and show a bit of respect and restraint instead of rushing cars pushing people out of the way ... holding back if there are 2-3 round a car they might just might get more 'action'

instread of dirving round full beams on shining them into every car for fear of missing something and burning peoples retinas out

thing is couples now DONT indicate on purpose to give the old school dogges a chance ..buy going talking to them and having a sneaky look without advertising it to the idiots

sagain there are lots of 'kids' and no offence to any young doggers out there but the kids who flash lights indicators brake lights and interior lights to try and tempt over doggers to hurle abuse and insults

so a lot of even old school folk will ignore signals now

so its tricky whatever you do

there used to be very specific guide lines ... about car engine runnin windows open doors open ..but they seem to have gone out of the window now

It would be easier if we were talking 5-10 yrs ago then there were guides lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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t5 dont get me wrong mate, i think this site is good..its just not what i thought it was. we have arranged meets and will do again for sure..they are fun. just shocked at the lack of people that actually seem to go out dogging (only speaking from ones we have spoken to in our area)

rules or no rules, peoples experiences are always good guidelines..if its that hard to know whos looking for what surely thats more the reason to try and help out other genuine doggers.

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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the only way to find out is to talk to people in my experience

or if u are unsure hang back a bit and see wat they want they will soon show you

what you have to remember is as a couple YOU direct the show

u can do what u like with who u like

and you call the shots

you can get out the car and start shagging on the bonnet but if u have said no touching they should repect that

and anyone that doesnt should be pulled by the other guys there

anyone breaks the rules u just say sorry lads show is over due to him and get back in the car lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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i like the sound of that lol...leave the bloke with a pack of horny men.

we did it for the first time a few weeks back after going to car parks and shitting it. now we have got over the first go im sure it will get easier.

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By *helsea1987x  (M)(F  over a year ago

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the problem with the rules is i sit with the window open skirt up having a play and switch my interia light on.. still nothing ... im now unsure what t do t encourage men

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*5Tart By *5Tart   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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run round the carpark naked saying cum get me ?

NO dont do that seriously lol

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By *razytrucker  (M)  over a year ago

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Is saying your going to be in a town ok , its hard to know who is up for it or you get men coming over and chating to you and you think they want to shag you lol. I don't think its made easy this dogging lark i just sit and wait and hope I get lucky and as for respect if you said no touching your right in what you say that's the rules or get lost its your body and it nice of you to let us see you enjoying your self so please don't think all us blokes are monsters because we arnt some of use do no how to respect a lady or cpl so keep on having good fun and take care out there

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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WTF!!! nobody comes for a peek _helsea1987x christ where you dogging? Mars!!!!!!!

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By *helsea1987x  (M)(F  over a year ago

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blidworth lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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you doing it all wrong chelsea.

What you need to do is have ballons floating above your car, a few fireworks, a big banner reading "WE ARE UP FOR IT". Get the hubby to shout roll up roll up for your viewing pleasure tonight may I introduce the one and only (your name)"

Seriously though you are right, we have spent many evening sat in dogging sites with guys too afraid (or thick) to get out and come over. We think that instead of dogging there is some kind of competition as to who can empty there fuel tank the quickest.

NOTE TO ALL GUYS:

get out of your cars and come and say hi to couples, worst that could happen is that the couple say, "no thanks".

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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lol.. at scoots..if your out tonite..ill come over and say hi

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Lol how you escaped the net up there _helsea1987x is a damn mystery!!!!

Note to self!!!!

Check the younger cpls cars......

Extra note!!!! go running again just so I can do a legger if its not chelsea but some boy racers lol...

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By *helsea1987x  (M)(F  over a year ago

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say hello any time

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By *razytrucker  (M)  over a year ago

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Thank you i will get out a bit more and see where it gets me I will let you know happy dogging everyone ps you can talk to us truckers we don't bite

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